If you are in a relationship or you have kids, possibly quite recently, but if you are not in either of those situations, and even for some of you that are, the chances are you might not have said it to anybody for a while.
Over the last few weeks I have been making efforts to share my love a little more openly. It started in earnest when I embarked on Patti Digh’s online course, Project 137. Each day for 137 days we receive prompts and exercises to complete. I started the course 34 days ago and it has been both inspirational and thought-provoking to say the least.
One of the earlier exercises was to make a list of the people who I love most in this world and write one or two sentences explaining why. From that list, we were then prompted to write letters of love to those people. I’m still working my way through that exercise. Thinking and writing about why I love the people in my life has been heartwarming. It has left me feeling both loving and loved and it has also served to remind me how blessed I am to have those people in my life.
Do they know how you feel?
Writing those letters made me realise that I could have quite easily gone my whole life without telling those closest to me just how important they are to me and how much I love them. That realisation really got me thinking about the importance not just of loving the people in my life and being grateful for them, but also the importance of telling them exactly how I feel.
How often do you tell the people who have an impact on your life a) that you love them and b) the ways in which they have a positive impact on your life? If it’s not regularly then you might want to think about changing that. I know from experience that nothing feels better than being told that you are loved and appreciated and coming a close second to that feeling is how it feels to tell someone else.
I am very lucky to have people in my life who tell me that I am loved and appreciated and I’m also lucky enough to receive emails from strangers who take the time and energy to write to me to tell me that my words have encouraged and inspired them. It makes my whole day to get an email like that and receiving one such email recently, combined with my project 137 work got me thinking that I don’t tell people often enough when they have had a positive impact on my life. I’m working on changing that.
Sharing love with strangers
More recently I stumbled across a website called www.moreloveletters.com dedicated to sending love letters out into the world. The idea is that you write anonymous love letters and leave them out and about in random places for people to find. Each letter contains the web address so that the people who find them can write in to share the impact the letter had.
I loved this idea and this weekend just gone, a good friend and I went stationary shopping (one of my favourite things to do!) and bought beautiful note paper, pink envelopes, heart stickers and coloured pens. I’ve only written one letter so far and I wanted to share the words with you because I believe they apply to each and every one of you.
A love letter
I know that sometimes you don’t think that you’re enough. On bad days you think that you’re not beautiful enough, smart enough, kind enough or funny enough.
I felt compelled to write and tell you that YOU ARE ENOUGH. In fact, you’re a stunner, your kindness melts people’s hearts, your wisdom is inspirational and your sense of humour…well it has me chuckling to myself everyday.
Please don’t give in to thoughts of not being enough because it’s simply not true.
I hope that your day is filled with joy, laughter and love because you deserve everyday to be like that.
Lots of love
Somebody who cares
It’s time to open up
I’ve never been a particularly demonstrative person when it comes to love, but the more I’ve learnt to love myself, the easier it has become to show others how much I care. These days I get a real buzz out of sharing my love openly and courageously. I use the word courageously because I know only too well how scary it can be so open with your love but my experience with it has shown me that the rewards are totally worth it.
If this post has inspired you to write some love letters, I’d like to suggest that you start by writing one to yourself. This suggestion comes with a warning. That is that you may well find that the hardest person to write a love letter to is yourself. It was for me and if I’m being honest, I haven’t yet managed to finish mine but I’m working on it. Writing love letters to other people by comparison feels like a doddle.
If writing aint your thing, then why not just tell people? Trust me, it feels great and you might find you even get a taste for it.
If you do try this or you’re already perfectly comfortable expressing your love, then please let me know how that works for you. If you liked this post and it has inspired you to share your love more openly, please do share this post (by hitting one of the buttons below) so that others might also get more open with their love.