In a post about how to deal with procrastination I set out my goals for the month of May.

These were:

  1. Lose 4lbs in weight
  2. Write and publish a minimum of 4 blog posts
  3. Complete 3 fear-facing challenges.

This post is the report on how I fared.

1. Lose weight

I achieved this. I’m not trying to lose weight for vanity reasons – I just put on over half a stone in the last 6-12 months and my jeans are tight and I don’t want to have to buy new ones! To achieve this goal as well as others around fitness and saving money, I have done the following things:

Started cycling to work. Not all the way from Brighton to London (!) but from London Victoria to Kings Cross on my beautiful fire engine red fold-up bike. I am not yet doing this consistently – this week for example I have been feeling a little under the weather and have opted for the tube instead.

Started indoor climbing Years ago I used to go indoor climbing every week and since moving to Brighton I haven’t but a couple of friends and I have started what we are calling ‘Climbing Club’ (inventive I know!) every Tuesday evening. We’ve only been twice but it already feels like a keeper and I love it.

Started doing classes at the gym near work Because I volunteer at the youth centre over the road from where I work I get free gym access – brilliant. My ultimate aim is to take full advantage of this by doing at least three 45 minute lunchtime classes a week . I have done this once so far this month and my aim is to get consistent with this going forward. 

2. Write and publish 4 posts

I succeeded at this one! In the month of May I have published 4 posts:

  1. My first post
  2. How to beat procrastination with the power of three
  3. Why fear is such an important part of my life
  4. How to identify and silence your biggest critic

What I’ve loved about this goal is how enjoyable it has been to achieve. When I first started this blog and made a commitment to myself (and to my readers) to post at least once a week I worried that I might come to see it as a chore. Nothing could be further from the truth. I’ve found something that I love to do and plan to continue doing for a long time to come.

 3. Complete three fear-facing challenges 

1. Record and publish a video blog

2. Dance in public

3. Join a social group and attend an event on my own

I completed two and half out of three of these.

Publish a video blog. I have recorded and now published a video blog which is embedded in this post and in it I talk about how that felt for me. I think I learnt a lot about myself in the process and realised just how self-conscious I can actually be.

However, the act of facing that fear and recording (and re-recording) the video helped me to learn how to relax and be more aware of my body language, and I’m really grateful for that. For me the hardest part of this challenge is, however, still to come which is publishing it!

Dance in public. I not only completed this one but I actually did it four times and I absolutely loved it (see second video). The funny thing about this one is that despite doing it several times and feeling slightly more comfortable each time I did it, my dancing did not improve one bit. But the important thing was doing something completely outside of my comfort zone, which I did and the world not coming to an end, which it didn’t.

Join a social group and attend an event on my own. I didn’t complete this one. Ironically, it’s the challenge I feared the least and I guess that made it less important. I suppose I felt like if I was going to fail at anything it would be better to fail at the easiest rather than the hardest challenge. I did join a group – Brighton Explorers Club (mountain biking, hiking and rock climbing) but I didn’t get to an event. Time was a factor and so this is one I’ll carry over to next month.

May conclusions and June goals

In short I’m really happy with what I’ve achieved in May and setting these goals out in advance and publicly on my blog has played a huge part in driving me to complete them. I think the biggest thing I’ve learnt is that fear can be overcome. I now liken it to a big scary dog that, with a little coaxing on my part, will roll over and let me tickle its belly. Some of the things I’ve done over the last month are things I would never have chosen to do or thought I could do previously but I’m learning that I don’t need to limit myself anymore and that if I put my mind to it I can I can do just about anything!

My goals for June are as follows:

  1. To brand my blog
  2. To complete my de-clutter plans
  3. To complete an over-hang climb

In terms of a fear-facing challenge to throw into the mix, I also plan to join my local toastmasters group and attend a meeting with the aim of building on the work I did last month in creating my video blog. A long-term goal of mine is to become an inspirational public speaker so I’m hoping that this will help with that.

Please let me know if you have faced any fears lately or achieved any goals (big or small), I would love to hear from you. Also if you like the site don’t forget to subscribe!