Have you ever noticed how when you have a problem and can’t for the life of you work out what to do, that there is always one thing within your arsenal of possible solutions that you feel you just couldn’t possibly do?
Have you ever noticed how sometimes when people are in crisis they seem to resist the one thing they absolutely should do? You watch them go over and over their situation and touch upon, what seems to you, the most obvious solution, only to see them state it as the one thing that they couldn’t do.
I’ll give you some examples from my own life. A couple of years ago when I was looking at the relationships in my life and working on releasing myself from those that weren’t serving me, there was one very close and long-standing relationship that I swore to myself I wouldn’t let go of despite how painful it had at times been. It took me a while to get there but eventually I realised that of all my relationships it was actually this one that I absolutely had to let go of and regardless of how scary it was to do so, I did let go and it was liberating.
Then there is what I’m doing right now. Lately I have been really struggling with my writing, the inspiration is there but the ability to actually sit down and articulate my thoughts hasn’t been. I couldn’t for the life of me work out what to do. I tried journaling more, I tried free writing and I tried taking a break from writing to reset, but nothing seemed to be working. Then the thought of writing a post everyday for 30 days popped into my head and the idea of it filled me with horror. How could I even contemplate committing to writing a blog post everyday for a month when I hadn’t even been able to write a post once a week? That’s when I realised that I’d hit upon the perfect solution, the one thing that I absolutely must do.
It doesn’t always have to be a big thing. It could be as simple as telling yourself that you couldn’t possibly grow a beard because people might think it will look stupid or it could be as big as walking away from a relationship when all your recent thinking has been focused on how to stay and make it work. Whatever it is, identify what you couldn’t possibly do and then seriously think about doing that exact thing. Trust me, if you try it I honestly believe that you will be surprised by the results.
The reason we resist the one thing that we should do is usually because it feels like the hardest of all the possible solutions. The solution that requires the greatest amount of courage or the one that will mean the most amount of change but that my friends, is precisely why it is the one thing that you absolutely should do. When we stand up to our fears and embrace change, life takes on a whole new quality. We feel more alive than we could have ever imagined and the rewards that we find far outweigh the worries, fears and concerns we had about taking the leap.
So, what dilemmas are you facing in your life right now? Is there a solution that keeps popping into your head that you’ve been pushing away because it feels like the one thing you couldn’t do? Maybe it’s time to rethink your ‘couldn’t possibly’ and just go for it. Let me know if you have ever done the one thing you had been telling yourself you couldn’t do, I’d love to hear how that went for you. If you liked this post please do share by hitting one of the buttons below.