Women’s Circle Call # 3

On this page you’ll find highlights, notes and timings for the call.


Show notes

0-00:01:10: Welcome, logistics + participant controls.

00:01:10: I want to talk about emotions – giving ourselves permission to feel any emotion that comes up for us. Asking the participants: Who of you sometimes feel at the mercy of your emotions? Who has a tendency to feel shame or feel bad about feeling bad?

Feeling low is inevitable, feeling bad about feeling low is optional.


The Guesthouse – a poem by Rumi 

This being human is a guest house.

Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of its furniture,

still, treat each guest honourably.

He may be clearing you out

for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.

meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.

because each has been sent

as a guide from beyond.

00:05:20: Question to all participants on the call: What emotion(s) have you felt this week and rather than welcoming you have tried to push it away?

– Frustration, confusion, disconnection – ‘I feel like I should be past this’

– Feeling low & anger – ‘I forget that one day it will different again, when I’m in it’

– So many emotions – ‘I’m leaving the door open and welcoming them in, but I do have these moments of Oh my God these fucking guest they make such a mess.’

00:22:30: I share the notion of the upper limit problem (The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks). He says we have a limit, that gets created when we are young, a limit of how much success, happiness and fulfilment we are capable of having. When pushing our boundaries, transforming and growing something in our brain triggers that we are exceeding this limit.

00:26:07: “I would like to take space and dare to show up – I don’t have a specific topic – and feel the vulnerability I feel doing that” My next step is to offer interactive talks online.

Fear is simply excitement without the breath.

“I was wondering why it is so difficult for me to show up in the market place?”

Finding support in asking our guides / the universe when showing up.

On one level it has nothing to do with you, on another level it has everything to do with you.

00:43:45: “I’m feeling really stuck, I have been having a lot of health issues and it seems like I cannot win, then I’m having doubts around business and lifestyle around travels, wishing I had a home. But what can I call home. Feeling lost and confused, which also feels like a pattern.”

Lay down roots vs. travelling

Maybe you need to feel at home within yourself. Exploring what is feels to be at home.

“Money limits my options.” When we feel that money is a scarce resource we think about all these things that we would do if we had it. Uncover how to find the feeling of fulfilment. Going after what we want vs. what we think we can get

01:02:44: “I’m feeling very anxious, emotionally unstable, loser schedule, and I’m feeling unclear. Missing a FEELING of direction and purpose.” And “I feel very insecure in my work – in what I deliver.”

Have you become too comfortable in your work? Are you staying inside of your comfort zone?

Finding the balance between structure and flow. Is it the time for you to raise your rates?

The prosperous coach: You are not doing it right if you’ve never had no’s. Maybe you can challenge yourself to get some no’s. Maybe think about new and exciting ways to work with people. Can you have more fun with the way you work with clients and the packages you offer, making it specific to them.


Resources mentioned on this call

The Prosperous Coach: Increase Income and Impact for You and Your Clients by Steve Chandler and Rich Litvin