On this page you’ll find highlights, notes and timings for the call.
Welcome, logistics + participant control
00:00:35: Opening with shared silence and connecting to ourselves
00:02:52: Talking about “What is your relationship between your inner and outer world?” I was asked this questions lately. I’m rebranding my own website, and I realized it didn’t show me fully. I’m working on bringing my inner world out.
00:05:50: Initial check in with each participant asking you to share, name, location, and what comes up when hearing the question of your relationship between your inner or outer world.
– Wanting to be more authentic in my business relations
– Wanting to have a wardrobe that represents me fully
– Being bolder and more colorful with my physical expression, and when developing my new VA business being brave and bring my own personality into it.
Exploring each of these three statements further.
00:27:40: “When I started creating this email guide I was so excited to share it, now it feels like a task, how can I keep the joy for what I’m creating?”
What would it look like to consider that the imperfections of your work, is what makes it beautiful?
What might support you is just to be aware of what is going on in your process.
“When I start thinking about the outcome and usefulness during the creative process it blocks me.”
What might help is the idea that when you create something it’s not your job to filter it.
Our natural state is joy, when it’s fading know that it’s not the joy that is fading away, but something is being put on top – and it’s often thought.
00:45:43: “I’m noticing lately that I don’t have my own back, that I’m still doubting myself…I am having doubt about everything I do at the moment if I don’t get recognition or if I have setbacks. I want to be sure that what I’m doing is good enough.”
The most profound lesson I’ve learned over the years is that the fear and the self-doubt doesn’t go away. It’s how we deal with it that makes the difference and determines our level of success. We might look at other people and think they don’t feel fear and self-doubt, but they do!
Exploring a concrete example of having some people unsubscribe from a campaign.
Ask yourself whether what you want to change comes from a place of fear or a genuine want to make changes? Everything that we do comes either from a place of fear or love.
“My big problem was that I was doubting myself.”
It sounds like you aren’t accepting the feeling of doubt. There needs to be acceptance for transformation to happen.
Awareness + acceptance = transformation
01:06:18: “I don’t feel well, and there is a lot of stuff going on in my mind. I feel low energy, and I’m not motivated at the moment. I feel disconnected, lonely, exhausted. There are feelings I don’t want to feel and I distract myself a lot. I feel like I’m numbing the negative feelings.”
Exploring feelings of fear and overwhelm and strong emotions.
If all of the emotions that you are numbing or suppressing would come up, what would the consequence be?
“There is a part in me – the kid in me – that is not ready to go out there and to grow up fully.”
“I’ve never been financially independent – financial support is the only form of security I’ve always had. Maybe there is an inner conflict that I don’t trust myself to be independent, and what would it mean now to release this sense of support/love.“
Maybe you can journal about ‘What am I making financial independence mean?’
Sometimes we have to do things even when we feel fear, and trust that we will feel better afterwards. It’s a fine balance between being gentle with ourselves, pushing ourselves or too hard on ourselves. Check in with where you are right now.
01:30:05: Thank you and goodbye.
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Quote by Pema Chödrön – How to Defeat Fear
HOW TO DEFEAT FEAR
Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn’t want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave instructions for the battle.
The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. The young warrior roused herself and went toward fear, prostrated three times, and asked, “May I have permission to go into battle with you?”
Fear said, “Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission.”
Then the young warrior said, “How can I defeat you?”
Fear replied, “My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don’t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don’t do what I say, I have no power.”